Frequently Asked Questions
Who does Single Socials serve? Everyone.
Single Socials seeks to serve individuals of all backgrounds and simply does so in a way that understands 'I have to walk before I can run'.
Serving Christian singles is where my desire for this ministry began but it is my belief in Jesus that inspires me to serve all and anyone. God loves everyone and, from my experience, there is more than enough love in God to go around. :)
What there is not more than enough of to go around is me! After serving singles of all faiths & non-faiths in St. Louis, I have chosen to start smaller in Boston and only grow after streamlining what I do.
In addition, if you are both Christian & Queer, I understand it can be hard to find a place in the Christian community - at least that is what my gay brother shared was his experience. I would love to start a Christian community for encouragement for you. Please denote if you would like to be a part of this.
Also, Single Socials does not discriminate by age. Currently most members are in the range of 23-50.
I do ask that all participants be single and I reserve the right to deny services to anyone who does not respect others at my events or acts in a way I deem unhelpful to the purpose of providing fun, safe, Christ centered and meaningful singles events.
If you feel you have been treated unkindly or have any other concerns, please write to info@singlesocials.com with the subject line "Concern".
Why do you sometimes use speed dating events? How can that be enough time to get to know someone?
Glad you asked!
It's not enough time know if you want to be in a dating relationship with someone, but often hours are not enough time to make that decision either.
I host Speed Dating events because they are a safe casual setting to meet multiple people in one fun night - and without the stress of having to ask people out afterwards. I let you know when someone expresses a mutual interest in you. ...Then go grab a coffee and talk for hours!
Seven minutes is just enough time to get a 'gut feeling' for someone to the point where you can decide if 'you'd like to have a cup of coffee with them later' and get to know them more.
Seven minutes can save you an hour or more of sitting through an awkward dinner with someone you realize you had less in common with than you thought by the time the food arrives (even after months of online dating).
And seven minutes gives you enough time to meet 3-12 other people in one night.
The comment I hear the most from introverts who attend my Speed Dating events is how much fun they had and how nervous they had been before coming. These individuals realize, as I have, that 7 minutes is short enough to avoid most awkward silences and gives introverts better footing/more structure to succeed where they may have felt hesitant in the past.
Please also see my free coaching videos on 'What to say when you don't know what to say' and more. :)
Finally, seven minutes can save you an hour or more of sitting through an awkward dinner with someone you realize you had less in common with than you thought by the time the food arrives-even after months of online dating.
Finally, my favorite part about Speed Dating is that it maintains the most dignity and privacy for those who attend. There is no need to ask someone out afterwards. I will let you now if there is mutual interest based on feedback forms people give me.
This means no awkward feelings if you meet someone later a work or a church event because one-sided selections remain confidential. You will only ever hear about those who expressed an interest in you if you also express an interest in them.
This also gives you another chance to build a relationship with them should you meet again. Sometimes people say 'no' to someone after 7 minutes that they say 'yes' to after knowing someone more.
How many people are at most of my events?
My speed dating events typically draw 14-24 participants. I also host small dinners and more casual events as well as volunteerism opportunities or hiking groups. These will roll out as the membership database builds.
If you have a group of 40-100, I have unique options and approaches I would suggest.
How do the donations work?
I'm a CPA, so I love to get into the numbers.
What I want to do is give 100% of the profits Single Socials earns to charity.
What I don't want to do is be a company who says they give a large percentage of their profits to charity, but then takes out such large salaries and extravagant expenses that the actual profits left to give to charity are minimal.
So, I currently handle this in two ways:
1) All the proceeds from Single Socials coaching sessions go directly from you to your choice of 501(c)3 charities listed on my website - without going through me. Just send me a screen shot of the Charity's name, your name, and the donation date/amount and your spot will be reserved.
2) Event revenues are used to cover event costs and company overhead such as marketing, business registration fees, website, etc. Remaining profits are invested into Single Socials or are given 100% to charity.
Rebekah currently takes no salary and has this to say:
Those bringing clean water worldwide, my friends bringing agriculture and fishing to one of the poorest areas in Haiti, and those working to uplift youth and children in the Boston area - are doing amazing work.
...and now you are a part of that story.